I'ts been a full week. I hope I don't overwhelm you.
This week has been...trying to keep my studio more tidy as material flies everywhere (lost cause), tilling another huge garden space (him, not me). Planting lettuce. Keeping up with the laundry and housework (epic fail - until yesterday I did about 4 hours of cleaning and washing.) Work. Work. Work. Oh- and adding this store in Indiana thanks to a recommendation from this beautiful soul.
And... this week I worked on refining my parenting skills. Let's stop there for a moment shall we? Because no matter how perfect a parent you set out to be, parenting can be exhausting. (The Buddha would have been exhausted and gritting his teeth here and there. Come on. ) So, my question of late has been: how can I keep being a great parent when I'm exhasted from work and life? I needed some help.
And, it's been amazing because with the help of a book or two, and a committed mind, I've really been able to make some good changes this week. I consider myself a pretty good parent, but this is really serious fine-tuning.
For instance, one of my girls has a current fear of arriving to school late (even though she has never arrived late.) It used to drive me batty every morning as I tried to be rational with her about her feelings. Lately, instead, I've been working on agknowledging her feelings rather than trying to change them. In a nutshell, it's the difference between saying to her: "We won't be LATE!" and (instead) "Worrying is a yucky feeling, isn't it?" The second option leads us into a whole new territory that can actually be interesting (and safe for her) to navigate. Plus, it's so much more peaceful.
Another experience: yesterday our younger daughter (almost 6 years) came up to me crying for no reason I could see. She said: "Mama I need to cry!" And she did, off and on for the next hour- big ol' tears. Brad and I both took turns holding her and being there for her as needed until she was happily moving on with her day. I took this as a really great thing, that she was able to process the sadness on her own essentially, all she needed was someone to agknowledge and empathize with her feelings and be there for her.
I am guessing the results are deep from this type of parenting. When we are consciously helping to set up the emotional wiring in our children. We all know how hard it is to try and re-wire oursleves as adults. So, the more they can learn now, the better.
This book is helping me, but I know there are even better ones out there. I'd love your input, thoughts, more book rec's.
I have to say, I thought when I first became a parent that I would never need support through books with child-rearing. HA HA HA HA HA HA! It's good to get humbled, and it's even better to get guidance that really works for the whole family.
ALSO: Speaking of mama's....there are a few mama shirts in the store now. [Yikes, edited to add that there is only one mama shirt left..store will be replenished as the week goes on...] I only get the best cotton shirts, often organic, so soft. Take a peek, if you like. The prices are really quite good, I must say. And check out the cute tepee shirts for little dudes! I need to do some tepees in gal colors, too. Tepees are so rad.
What else do you think I can sew onto. Hmmm??? Totes? Kids totes? For the market? Other ideas? Let em rip.
LAST NEAT NEWS: I've talked The Brad into getting ducks again. There is a "non-quacking" type of duck called a Muskovy. They make great pets and do lay eggs about 1/2 the year (we use them for baking). And the females are as friendly as a dog (they say.) We are going to put in a tiny easily drainable pond for them, and section off an unused bit of this 1/4 acre of ours for their run. I've really missed having ducks around, but never considered this breed. When I came home with a bunch of farm books from the library yesterday, Brad looked worried. But aren't you excited Brad??? They DON'T QUACK!!!!
joining weekending with A.